Monday, March 17, 2008

Your Choice

My thanks to Julie for sharing this story with me.

John is the kind of guy you love to hate. He is always in a good mood and always has something positive to say. When someone would ask him how he was doing, he would reply, "If I were any better, I would be twins!"

He was a natural motivator.

If an employee was having a bad day, John was there telling the employee how to look on the positive side of the situation.

Seeing this style really made me curious, so one day I went up and asked him, "I don't get it!

You can't be a positive person all of the time. How do you do it?"

He replied, "Each morning I wake up and say to myself, you have two choices today. You can choose to be in a good mood or ... you can choose to be in a bad mood

I choose to be in a good mood."

Each time something bad happens, I can choose to be a victim or...I can choose to learn from it. I choose to learn from it.

Every time someone comes to me complaining, I can choose to accept their complaining or... I can point out the positive side of life. I choose the positive side of life.

"Yeah, right, it's not that easy," I protested.

"Yes, it is," he said. "Life is all about choices. When you cut away all the junk, every situation is a choice. You choose how you react to situations. You choose how people affect your mood.

You choose to be in a good mood or bad mood. The bottom line: It's your choice how you live your life."

I reflected on what he said. Soon hereafter, I left the Tower Industry to start my own business. We lost touch, but I often thought about him when I made a choice about life instead of reacting to it.

Several years later, I heard that he was involved in a serious accident, falling some 60 feet from a communications tower.

After 18 hours of surgery and weeks of intensive care, he was released from the hospital with rods placed in his back.

I saw him about six months after the accident.

When I asked him how he was, he replied, "If I were any better, I'd be twins...Wanna see my scars?"

I declined to see his wounds, but I did ask him what had gone through his mind as the accident took place.

"The first thing that went through my mind was the well-being of my soon-to-be born daughter," he replied. "Then, as I lay on the ground, I remembered that I had two choices: I could choose to live or...I could choose to die. I chose to live."

"Weren't you scared? Did you lose consciousness?" I asked

He continued, " ..the paramedics were great.

They kept telling me I was going to be fine. But when they wheeled me into the ER and I saw the expressions on the faces of the doctors and nurses, I got really scared. In their eyes, I read 'he's a dead man'. I knew I needed to take action."

"What did you do?" I asked.

"Well, there was a big burly nurse shouting questions at me," said John. "She asked if I was allergic to anything 'Yes, I replied.' The doctors and nurses stopped working as they waited for my reply. I took a deep breath and yelled, 'Gravity'."

Over their laughter, I told them, "I am choosing to live. Operate on me as if I am alive, not dead."

He lived, thanks to the skill of his doctors, but also because of his amazing attitude... I learned from him that every day we have the choice to live fully.

Attitude, after all, is everything .
After all, today is the tomorrow you worried about yesterday.

Wednesday, March 12, 2008

The Gift of Tying a Shoe

Each Wednesday I have the opportunity to spend 30 minutes reading and interacting with a kindergarten class. I may be only person who has spent 9 years in Kindergarten. Each visit grants me a number of blessings. While I am treated as the special guest each week, it is I who often leave with the blessing.

Today I had the privilege of tying a little girl's shoe. She doesn't know how and most probably didn't even notice that it was untied. With a hint of pride, she willingly extended her foot in my direction. As I finished the bow, a double knot to prevent a quick unraveling, I realized that she had given me an opportunity to serve her. And I was grateful.

How often do we miss opportunities, sometimes seemingly insignificant, to simply serve another human being? No doubt that we have been the recipient of others kind deeds. Do we take them for granted or do we seek out opportunities to return the favor?

Thanks, Rochelle, for blessing me with the opportunity to serve you.

Wednesday, March 5, 2008

Light at the end of the Tunnel


On a recent family outing to Grandfather Mountain, Angela snapped this photo. It serves as a reminder that no matter our current situation, if we look up, we will see 'light.'

Sometimes, if the situation is dreadful, it may be necessary for those around us to remind us of the light that continues to shine.